There is a Hebrew passage that states, “He that finds a wife finds a good thing” and I was
raised to be that good wife. But after my divorce from a 8 year marriage, I walked into a world
that glorified the independent woman and I had no clue how to be independent from a marriage.
I looked for independent womanhood literacy in women that were about their business. Yet they
were internally lost and empty and simply not happy. While at the same time looking for that
man to complete me so I can build a home. So after years of failed relationships with men and
not seeing the example of womanhood I yearned for.
What I discovered was not just who I am in this body as a female, but who I am as a spirit in this
universe and a human being in the world. My curiosity led me to what our ancient mothers
understood and knew; that womanhood is dimensional and the fulfillment of that womanhood is
infinite journey. I fell in love with knowing, translating and sharing with women the ancient
practices understandings of womanhood to heal and liberate who we are to the world.
I realized that being a wife is not really a marital status but the status of developing and fulfilling
oneself as a spirit, human and woman.
Speaking and sharing with hundreds of women what I have found is that women are yearning.
We know something has to change, but it is not in the how to’s of change, it is in the feminine
intuition within. That feminine power of intuition leads us to the healing discovery of who we truly
are and liberates us to create the balance in our own lives to be the change we want to see in
I moved to New York, pursued my life’s dream to be in the fashion industry and had a identity crisis because fashion was fulfilling a talent and gift but not a purpose. I was also homeless for 3 ½ months sleeping out of my car saving money for my first apartment. After divorce I walked into a “independent women glorified society” and I had no clue how to be independent after a 8 year marriage and a lifetime of being raised to be a wife.
I subconsciously was looking for a husband and this led to so many failed relationships, I wanted help becoming a woman. This search led me in front of a mirror and I helped myself and moved back to Detroit, went back to school and graduated Summa Cum Laude majoring in Psychology. School rescued me, Psychology delivered me into such a strong awareness of self because I knew now how powerful my mind was if I managed it.
I launched wife comma blog finally, it went from an idea to an action taken. This was a major step for me because I wanted to get my voice and writing skills out to women for so long but wasn’t taking the actions to make this vision a reality until I did. I launched the blog site but stuck with it and evolved it into a wellness empowerment brand for women.
I kept finding myself in familiar self sabotaging emotional patterns wanted to deepen my healing and awareness of self. I was faced with the challenge of answering the question do I want to brand wifecomma or do I want to live wifecomma? Enrolling into The Work by Byron Katie help me heal in ways I never knew I needed and help be what I wanted to create with WIFE Comma.